|Posted by Muhjahid Qahhar, Author on September 3, 2013 at 10:40 AM|
TO LIVE IN MODERATION is easier said than done. TO NOT LIVE IN MODERATION is one of the leading causes of failure.
We have a child, by age two the whining, crying, clinging, carrying, feeding, mess control, and much more starts to wear on even the most loving parent. By the time they're six, you start to miss the two year old stage. You want to hold them again...sometimes. Truth is, the terrible twos aren't so terrible when there are two parents equally participating. Moderation can make the difference in a good parent and an abusive parent.
SOMETIMES, THE AFFAIR BECOMES HEALTHIER than the actual marriage or relationship. (I am not trying to encourage or promote affairs) The taboo of it contributes to the excitement, not the health. Both parties may have a full life, bills, adult responsibilities. All of these things, plus the mechanics of having an affair, forces them to socialize moderately. Not too much, not too little. It keeps the relationship refreshed. Keeps things spicy. I would like to think there is a technique to do the same with marriage, to keep the relationship afresh. We don't consider these things, we just allow the relationship to grow old and insipid. We do this over and over again, starting out on fire, blazing too high, burning out, or burning too low, fading out. Then we point fingers. The blame game. Maybe...just maybe, it is neither or both of y'all s fault. The breakdown may very well stem from the ignorance of this key principle; moderation.
Whether it involves drinking, eating, sex, work, or play, moderation is key. Too much or too little...begins a process of destruction.
Author of the Ambivalence trilogy
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